Art of parenting

Love of parents for their children is the most natural thing. Love for children by parents is not taught. It is an instinct. But parenting is an art and requires proper knowledge training and practice. Love is a mighty force. People learn the art of parenting immediately after becoming parents. Most of us have learnt this art from our own parents. If anyone knows how to guide your child better to be a good human being, such a person is a true teacher.

To bring up children rightly is not easy. It is a daunting task. Nothing is more rewarding than shepherding children in the enchanting phase of infancy. It is a joyous task. When parents leave their children in charge of a school they have great expectations. They are anxious to know whether their kids are taken care of and guided properly by the teachers to end up as happy and successful citizens. However, happy children invariably become successful in life whereas all successful children may not be necessarily happy.

Each child is different from the other. Even children from the same parents can differ widely from each other. We must remember that each child has its own potential. We must not try to be the makers of their destiny. Parents must not compare one child with another. Even they must not compare siblings with regard to their academic performance. It hurts and creates a complex among them. They may not speak up but they suffer in silence. Parents must discover the hidden potential in their children and help them to blossom.
Children come through their parents but they come with their own potentials which would lead them to their destinations. Never try to build your child in your own image. Don't try to fulfill your desires and dreams through your child. Don't try to colour your child with your own complexes.

We are living in an age of disintegration. These are times of insecurities, doubts, disputes, distractions and fear. Children hold their parents and teachers in high esteem. Any uncharitable remark in respect of little children and even adolescent students would certainly create a negative impact in their minds. If you keep harping on their failures the child is hurt and becomes rebellious.  They don't grow up with positive values. We must inspire them to be positive and creative otherwise they would become problems for the society.

Experts say we must give our love and affection to a child for the first five years. The child should feel secured. From the age of 6 up to 15 the child has to be helped to develop discipline, positive habits etc. Children love to learn through examples. Parents, teachers and elders should be role models to children rather than giving them only sermons. Remember, children are great observers and imitators. After 15 years of age you should be a friend, philosopher and guide sharing issues and problems with them.


The first five years of a child's life is a period of bonding with the mother. From the mother, the child learns virtues of the heart like love, affection, gentleness care and tolerance. Thereafter the father becomes the role model. The child is thrilled to go out in his company and worships him like a hero. Father must be an ideal to his child to emulate. When a father in a fit of rage scolds or hit his wife in presence of their child it creates a highly negative impression in the child. It is imperative for fathers to spend some quality time with their children and motivate them positively. Thereafter the adolescent can take care of himself/herself if parenting has been proper.

Parents naturally have great anxiety with regard to the academic performance of their children but every child has his/her potential which has to be developed with the help of parents, teachers and elders. Never pressurize your child but always help and inspire them to discover their potential for a holistic development.

The purpose of education is to build the child to become confident, be patient, face challenges bravely, to develop logical thinking.

Education is development of personality. Some adolescents who have grown up in proper care of their parents and received education under good teachers are able to carve out their own path and pursue the right vocations suitable to them. They become their own guides.

Every responsible parent wants his/her child to grow up to become a complete human being with virtues of the head and the heart. Like intelligence, competence, compassion etc. They should come up as responsible citizens loved and admired in the society. In that case it is the duty and responsibility of the parents to strictly take care of the upbringing of their children so that their children themselves can be good parents. Golden girls and bright boys are the greatest joy of a family and pride of the nation. Wish you a joyful parenting. Join us in the making of noble citizens for the society.